Having sex with a new partner on your first night together does not kill the chances of a long-term romance, according to the results of a new Lovehoney study, which has revealed that a third of men and women (33%) have gone on to date someone with whom they had a one night stand.
59% of men and 57% of women have gone to bed with someone the first night of meeting them, though far more women (40%) than men (27%) have regretted a one-night stand. Women are slightly more wary than men of partners who want to jump into bed straight away as one in six women (17%) said they would think less of someone if they had sex on the first night, compared to just 11% of men.
The survey, of 2,250 people, also revealed that most women (82%) and 73% of men admitted to first night nerves when they have sex with a new partner. The biggest insecurity for women was worrying about their appearance (84%), followed by their sexual performance (69%) and how they will compare with their partner’s previous lovers (61%). Men had the same insecurities but in a different order – with them it was their sexual performance (82%), followed by how they compare with their partner’s previous lovers (57%) and their appearance (54%). Women’s ideal venue for a first date is drinks in a bar (32%) followed by a romantic meal (27%). Men prefer it the other way round – 41% (a romantic meal) and 27% (drinks).
Lovehoney co-owner Richard Longhurst said: “What is brilliant about this survey is that 83% of women and 89% of men would not think any less of someone they slept with on the first night. It shows again that we have all grown up in the UK when it comes to sex and we are leaving behind those old-fashioned attitudes where people are judged on their sexual behaviour. The survey shows that one night stands often lead to something a lot more serious for many couples which is great, too. The other interesting finding is how men and women worry about different things when they sleep with someone for the first time. For women, appearance is by far the most important thing, whereas men are much more concerned about their performance.”